Category: Let's talk
Hi.
Someone at school started talking about this in a lesson which prompted about 45 minutes of discusion.
So, for all of those that had useable sight in the past, what do you miss the most about it now that its gone?
Personally its just some stuff on the computer for me, games mouse etc etc
And also some stuff that we used to do at school involving fire which i won't go into here.
Theres also the ones that should be taken for granted about your family and stuff like that.
BEN.
Well, I would say that the first answer to come to mind is sight itself. There are so many things to see, that I don't know if I could pick just one thing. I guess I would want to see the past women I dated after going blind. That would be the real test as to weather or not looks really matter. I could then ask myself, would I have dated them if I could see them?
Chevy Condoms: Like a rock
Nem-
oh of course you would. , you would think dam are they good looking hehehehe smiles
I'm going to jump in here, though I've never had sight, so I don't "miss" anything, but I do have regrets.
Wish I could drive, read, and flirt at a distance.
By the way Nem, they'd all be beautiful I'm sure.
Bob
Reading print, flirting at a distance, eye contact, seeing faces, being able to look out the window on a long car trip and appreciate the scenery, seeing TV screen and movie screen, walking freely without using a cane, being able to go shopping and browsing without help (both food shopping and clothes shopping), not being nervous in a crowd (losing my vision makes me hate crowds now), and just millions of every day things we all take for granted when we can see.
Bob I suppose they would be beautiful to someone, I wonder if they would be beautiful to me though. That brings up an interesting question. I am going to be interviewed in a few days by the local newspaper. The topic will be what is beauty. I think I have narrowed my answer to a classic Nem, answer. I think beauty or beautiful, is an individualistic idea of what appeals to him or her self. For me, beautiful goes beyond the norms of the everyday. It is not just pretty, or cute. For me, beautiful is something that I can see without sight. Not to be confused with descriptions of a particular thing, but it is in the thing itself. That, could be a person, or a instrument, or sculpture,; in short, a noun. What do you think?
I like your definition, Nem, but, beauty a noun? You mean like beauty and the beast?
I have always been interested in beauty, and research seems to indicate that, at least in sighted folks beauty may be hard wired into our systems. I don't know what this does for us the blind.
Check out this article
from ABC news.
I'd be interested in any responses. Nem, you might want to read this before your interview. BTW, good luck with that.
Perhaps this is off topic, and I apologize. But it seemed appropriate since the conversation has turned to "what is beauty".
Bob
And remember, what's beautiful for one person may or may not be considered beautiful to someone else...anyways, where off topic again. I have to agree with buck eyed fan 1000 percent. More things I would add are flirting at a distance, driving, reading print, shopping, not being brushed off by guys and anyone actually for being blind, some careers we can't do because it involves seeing, being 100 percent independent, putting on make-up, taking pictures and looking at them, getting a job without people doubting you, being able to use any computer you want without worrying about it not having jaws and shit and sooooooo many more things!!!
Bob, I have had a look at that article. It is amazing but not unexpected. In my psychology class we are told that vision is more of a mental thing not done with the eyes. The eyes capture the image but it is the brain that interprets the image. It makes me ask the question if the only thing is blindness, a non-functioning of the eyes, why couldn't we be guilty of what the article reveals? It makes me want to reevaluate what I think I know about myself. Thanks for the link Bob,
Nem-
have to agree with becky and baby girl, well except the make up part, smiles.
but the one thing i miss most is the freedom i had when i was riding a bike.
I miss not seeing facial expressions and not being able to make eye contact.
I miss my son's face. I miss the beautiful fall time. I grieve that I did not get to meet my grandson before I lost my sight. I miss .. ehh. I am not going on this is depressing.
Watching birds, squirrels, dogs, ants, roaches, and so many other living organisms.
Watching people.
Watching the waves at the beach.
Watching the flowing water in a river.
Observing facial expressions.
Seeing the moon, stars, the rain.
Observing how the wind moves the leaves on a tree.
Observing a baby exploring its surroundings.
Reading graffiti on the bus or on the walls.
Ridiculing teenagers dressed in ways which make them look stupid.
Seeing a woman's hair being blown by a breeze.
Watching a person's eyes light up with happiness or surprise.
Witnessing the unexpected, e.g. I once saw a man run off a public bus but he didn't make it to a toilet. lol
And so many other things I miss. *laughing/crying* lol
LOL, I forgot about reading graffiti. Even women write graffiti on bathroom stall walls. Ras, you named so many things that I agree with. It's amazing what sighted people take for granted.
Isn't it? OMG, i want to cry sometimes! Wow, i sound so emo?...
I miss:
1. Being able to buy/receive/pick up a regular printed/picture book to flip thru/read/color/write in,
2. Looking at things while in different positions like thru my magnifying glass/telescope while walking around, using a flashlight in the dark, when changing settings on the TV/CCTV, looking at things thru a mirror, etc.
3. Playing any chosen board game with my family without too much special considerations/adjustments to it.
4. Looking at pictures/photos and sometimes live people I know.
Oh yeah, I forgot about looking at pictures. I loved to take pictures as a kid. When my mom and I would go on vacations, she would let me do the picture taking because I was actually better at it than she was. Then when I lost the remainder of my usable vision, I was very depressed for awhile, and one of the stupid things I did in frustration was throw away all my picture albums. Now I wish I still had them even though I wouldn't be able to see the pictures anymore.
Driving is number one, especially with a dad and grandpa in the transportation business *sigh* Being able to read without eye strain or lighting concerns or magnification of any sort, being able to go on escalators without being terrified. Up ones are fine but my birthmother tried to force me down one and you just don't do that to someone who doesn't have depth perception! I'd like to be able to do complicated dance steps or be able to flirt and give guys the once-over. I'm the type that would sit at the back of the classroom and blend into the background if not for needing to sit in the front all the time. I'd like to perfect my drawing and photography skills. I've never had full sight before, but thought I'd give my list of things I'd like to do more if I could see.
there's a difference between missing things, and dwelling on them. sure, I miss seeing the expressions on people's faces, pictures of the family and/or animals I like, but it's better to be thankful for what you have, than to think about what you miss.